The Wright Way

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Thursday, September 20, 2018

Quo Vadis


Yin and Yang

You know that phrase from Dickens’ A Tale of Two Cities“It was the best of times; it was the worst of times”? And it goes on … “It was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity,” and further examples of the Yin and Yang of Life.

This, all and more, has been the feature of the most recent 3 months of my life.

To be fair, this Yin and Yang is going on ALL the time for ALL of us, and most of the time we don’t notice the peaks and troughs, the ebbs and flows – EXCEPT when we do!



And we only notice, our attention is drawn to the major/minor balance in our experiences, when there seems to be a less than random or cyclic flow to things.

And because we ARE ONLY human after all, we find ourselves noticing the runs in sequences of DOWNS far more than the UPS.

This was how it happened for me – round about the time I overdid it in terms of some sporting action. The weather was hot, I’d done some strenuous activity for two days and then spent a lot of time on my feet on the third day as well.
It was on the third day evening that my physical body began to shut down, crying out loud enough for me to hear – “Enough IS enough, Matey. You’ve overdone it, and this now is the wakeup call.”

Although my awakening to physical frailty was only in extremis for five days, I subsequently took things easy for much longer. And that was where the other rot began to set in. 
In the midst of lots of simple and regular everyday stuff, I began to notice – and pay more attention to – things I would normally look upon with a grounded understanding and an objective eye.

Bit by bit, I began to arrive at conclusions I wouldn’t have previously arrived at. More and more I would trip over bits of mental baggage, as I plied the daily pathways.


Apocalyptic Horses

My relationship with my thinking took a turn to the dark side – I began to believe my thoughts 100%.

I began to take many more things personally. Lapses in memory, everyday things forgotten, became more than random happenings of a busy-minded person – they became categorised and catalogued. I increasingly noticed every time I was criticised, judged, questioned.

EGO was under attack – and when ego feels under attack, then ego fights back for one’s self.
Ego became defensive, aggressive and, on occasions, very angry.
On the battlefield of the Outside-In nature of reality, the responsibility for the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune is ALWAYS with the world and, in my particular case, the people in it. It’s their fault for doing that to Me. It might start out as unfair or insensitive, yet the Horse gallops off and takes common sense with it.

When ego takes the reins of the Horse of Our Life and hangs on to them for too long, then things not only look apocalyptic – they very soon, in perceptive reality, become apocalyptic.

We might ask ourselves at some point, with blinding rhetoric, “Am I losing it?”

And in the midst of apocalypse, every answer we notice whispers Maybe, at first, then finally Yes.

In the end, this entire manic gallop came to rest in a “swamp of despair” that bore a remarkable resemblance to what John Bunyan described in The Pilgrim’s Progress as being “The Slough of Despond.”  * (pronounced Sluff)


The Slough of Despond

Without quoting Bunyan’s scary and indeed apocalyptic words, I can aver to this place as being where the Soul can feel - and be - abandoned.

Some may scoff at this declaration, saying that, “Surely the Soul cannot feel and be abandoned. What a ridiculous notion. The Soul is infinite, is eternal.”

I can also aver to this place being a “clearing house” for our state of mind and associated emotions.
It is like a quicksand – either you sink in deeper or you get pulled out.
Sinking in deeper will lead to depression and worse.
Getting pulled out will require some resource or other.

One of the awful and tragic things that is brought about by riding headlong into The Slough of Despond, is what becomes of the Horse of Our Life in that dreadful mire.
There are many metaphors and images that can spring to mind, as the Horse struggles to carry us back to safety. Yet, how true it is when we find that the life we lead cannot and will not bring us out of the Slough.


Some Resource or Other

There are resources, needless to say, that will enable us to be dragged from The Slough of Despond. These are the lifelines afforded to us, that are NOT always governed by knowledge, understanding, wisdom or common sense.

One of the lifelines is to abandon the Horse. By this I mean, that we extricate ourselves from our previous life, some or all its trappings and everything about it. However, some people might not want to abandon their way of life – and there’s a similar and graphic metaphor about how we might get ourselves out of a car that has been driven into the sea, a lake or a river.

We might break ourselves free of the Horse, stand on its back and jump to safety. We might then be able to rescue our own Horse as well.

Another lifeline is if someone Sees Us. We might hope that the someone has enough concern or resource of their own and have the will to throw us a lifeline. However, few people will either see or hear us. The Slough is a personal and silent place of our very own. We rarely, if ever, cry out for help … something I discovered at a very young age when exposed to drowning in a swimming pool. I might have waved and floundered around but calling out was not my intuitive action.

Another resource is Time. This is not THE most reliable of resources, since it is the gravity of thoughts, fears and judgements that weighs us down, pulling us deeper into the mire.

However, by lightening the load of our thoughts, fears and judgements we can shed some of the burdensome weight, allowing us to crawl nearer to safety. Of course, our lifestyle and trappings will be part of the equation too, which will play into this.

You may have some of your own considerations and conclusions about resources here too.

However, there is a caveat I will offer up to you.
When it comes to The Slough of Despond, then “Knowing Thyself” is the most distant of resources. We find our cupboards full of self-knowledge and self-understanding, of wisdom and grounded wellbeing, have been stripped bare. What was there yesterday has gone. When we are gasping for breath and flailing in the quicksand, our inner resources are removed from view in their usual place. We still have them, but our Soul will have laid them up, by way of preparation, into a place of safety.


“Quo Vadis?”

With my own recent journey, there were many questions related to “Am I losing it?”

Some were related to mental degeneration, a not unserious question in terms of my age, loss of synaptic connectivity, referential evidence of my own mental lapses and those evidenced by others. The instances highlighted in The Confession – “Left undone those things I ought to have done,” “erred and strayed like a lost sheep,” and “there is no health in me.” (NB - I’m not a religious person!)
Taking my “eye off the ball”; letting people down – both in my own judgement and being told so by others; being unable to let go of a persistent feeling of anger; having a sense of being mentally rendered down by complaint and criticism; and a catalogue of other instances.

As the Yin and Yang came and went like waves on the shore, it was a journey that was the best of times and yet also the worst of times.


Every journey we are on in Life WILL throw stuff at us out of the left field, and a reasonable smattering of curveballs. We ARE human, however – and we are not hermetically sealed from the things we come into contact with. Because we have nerves, there are always SOME nerve agents that are going to affect us. These affects are cumulative and can often come from the kindest, most benign and respected of sources. We need to be both vigilant AND honest with ourselves and others – and we also need to see the tell-tale signs in ourselves and others.

Finally, to those who really do care, I'd say just this ...

“In terms of Respect – our Soul Commands though never Demands.”

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Perceptual Hybrids


There’s a subtle power encapsulated within NLP that seems to defy science – which is reflected in the way that science cannot seem to prove what NLP is. We all have an idea of what NLP does, and what it can do in conjunction with other elements within the hypnotic domain, yet science regularly demands that NLP be defined, rather than defy!

I believe that the subtle power embedded in NLP plays out – for each of us – at a neurophysiological level. To put it simply, it is how the communicative power of language acts upon our minds and bodies, both in a conscious and cognitive way as well as in a more unconscious (outside of our attention) and intuitive/connective way.


Experiments – Just to see what might happen!

I have often experimented with creating Hybrid Processes by mixing certain routines, and then running them for clients just to see what might happen – mainly because there’s always something going to be going on!

Probably my most notable experiment was called “Watch your own performance.” This was where I took a cricketing batsman, in a practice scenario against a bowling machine, and asked him to imagine – while he continued to practice and hit balls – that he was observing himself batting from a position some 10-15m away. To do this he had to dissociate from the action he WAS doing, which elicited a range of interesting comments, responses and subtle inner adjustments to the way he was playing. In summing up, I described it as -

“He was able to improve the quality of his batting from the inside-out by first dissociating, and then opening out his focus through spatial re-association.”

You can read my article on this experiment here:-
http://pjwhypno.blogspot.com/2012/02/watch-your-own-performance.html


The Latest

So, what might happen if I mixed the linear nature of the elements in the Cognitive Cycle with the concept of Perceptual Positions by using the spaces within a room?

This came as a 4am message from out of the blue, as I woke up to a call of nature – there was this idea, in my conscious in-tray, waiting to be considered. So, I expanded some branches of the ideas and concepts, and came up with an experiment that I ran later for one of my clients.

In a large room I placed four chairs in a semi-circle facing a large empty box on the floor.
I labelled the box – THE WORLD.
I labelled one chair THOUGHT, the next FEELINGS, the next, JUDGING and DECIDING and the last one, ACTION and BEHAVIOUR.
In front of the first two chairs, on the floor, I put the label – WHAT IS IT THAT’S HAPPENING?
In front of the third and fourth chair, on the floor, I put the label – HOW SHALL I RESPOND?

Now, my client knows about The Cognitive Cycle and how the Power of Language links all the elements together. Also, he understands that how we experience the world and respond to it is simply represented by Our Relationship with Our Thinking. He is very well versed in the theory and practice of all of it.

So, when he arrived for our latest session and he saw the Experiment laid out as I’ve described, he was intrigued as to what might or might not happen!





Sometimes our Relationship with our Thinking tends to hoodwink us, because of the impression that we seem to feel certain things first and then go and think about them. In actual fact, what is really happening by this point, at a cognitive level, is that we then go and think about the feelings some more.
We would do well to remember that our feelings are generated from thought processes, for often there is such a high-speed link between our thinking and our feeling that it seems like the other way around. It is always the Egg!
By opening up this cycle to being represented by two separate chairs (thinking and feeling) in a space in a room, the Relationship immediately becomes a lot clearer!













Another bit of by-play in this physical representation, is to put a couple of little cushions – labelled MEMORIES and BELIEFS & VALUES­ – into the “Thinking” chair.

For when the client then sits in the “Thinking” chair, they also get a felt sense of how our Memories and Beliefs & Values play a vital role in how we filter the contents of our Thinking!




Next, I took my client through some specific examples of how he receives instances or stimuli from (the box labelled) The World … out there.
It started with his being sat in the THINKING chair – being pushed and nudged into a certain posture by the cushions of Memory and Beliefs & Values.
By asking him “What’s Happening Here?” I got him to evaluate, as best he could, just his thinking around this particular stimulus.
Then I quickly moved him to the FEELING chair and asked, “And what’s Happening HERE?” getting him to evaluate what and how he was Feeling as a result of his evaluations from the THINKING chair.
With those feeling evaluations fresh in his mind, I moved him back to the THINKING chair.
“OK – look at the FEELING chair and, tell me, what are you NOW getting from what you experienced sat in that chair?”

After his responses, I then asked him to stand next to the box labelled THE WORLD, and I got him to tell me what he’d evaluated – from this perspective – from observing himself at, first, the THINKING chair and then, secondly, the FEELING chair.
I then asked him to go and sit in the JUDGING chair – look back at the WORLD – and give his objective and impersonal evaluations of this particular stimulus, from a Judging perspective. His responses were calculated and dispassionate.
“Now that you’re assessing how to respond to this stimulus,” I said, “when you are ready go and sit in the ACTION chair. When you’re there, then tell me what responsive action you’re going to take.”

This he did, and finally I got him to go and stand next to THE WORLD and see himself taking the Action that he had Judged would be the response to make.
“What does THAT look like, from the perspective of you as observer, standing there at THE WORLD?”


Feedback

“Interesting,” he said. “I need to spend less, or as little as possible, time being sat in the THINKING chair. In terms of the things I’d like to change – if I could, quickly, go straight from THINKING to JUDGING then it would be a lot better.”
“If you could move one of the chairs out of the circle which one would it be?” I asked.
“That one,” he said – pointing at the FEELING chair. “All the reasons for me taking the choices I have done in the past, are from what I experienced in the FEELING chair. If I had felt nothing, then I’d have made a different Judgement as to what to do next.”
“That’s great,” I said as I picked up the FEELING chair and put it at the back of the room. “Let’s see what happens NOW.”

I asked him to stand by THE WORLD and imagine the same particular stimulus as being presented to him. I then directed him to go and sit in the THINKING chair. “What’s gone on NOW, in that chair?” I asked him. Amusingly, he asked if he could do without the cushions! “OK,” I said. “Put them on the floor and tell me how different the chair is without them. Then tell me about how this stimulus presents itself to you NOW.”

Without the cushions he was able to occupy the THINKING chair in a different posture. He discovered that his evaluation of the stimulus was quite different, much more neutral.
Then, without any more ado, he moved on quickly to the JUDGING chair and started smiling. It was the kind of smile we often make when experiencing lightbulb moments.

Somewhere, in the gap between the THINKING chair and the JUDGING chair, was the arrival of a whole raft of recognition and understanding.


Clouds
And now old friends they're acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I've changed
Well something's lost, but something's gained
In living every day.
I've looked at life from both sides now
From win and lose and still somehow
It's life's illusions I recall
I really don't know life at all
Songwriters: Joni Mitchell
Both Sides Now lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Crazy Crow Music / Siquomb Music Publishing

And, rather like some of the lyrics of the Joni Mitchell song Clouds, once we start looking at THE WORLD from a number of perspectives, using space and chairs and cushions and labels, then something that altogether seems to defy science emerges from the particular illusions that we had once created for ourselves.


Conclusion

There’s a subtle power encapsulated within NLP that seems to defy science and what it can do in conjunction with other elements within the hypnotic domain! Is it how the communicative power of language acts upon our minds and bodies, both in a conscious and cognitive way as well as in a more unconscious (outside of our attention) and intuitive/connective way?

I wonder!

Wednesday, June 20, 2018

L for Leather, M for Sis, N for Mation


Making up our Experience

Where does our experience come from?

It may seem like a simple enough question - yet the answer we are conditioned to believe, as we grow up in the increasingly complex world that has been created for us to live in, is one that colours our lives certainly from the moment we start school, and often before that time.

We assemble our experience of anything through the perceptions that are presented to our consciousness. We assemble these perceptions from predicting and analysing the sensual data we receive from certain stimuli.
Those stimuli can be what we see, hear, feel (touch), smell, taste – which are the 5 main OUTER senses (as we understand them) – PLUS – there are some other data sources as well, that come from interoception, what I would loosely describe as our INNER senses, such as the internal status of the body, time, balance, emotion, memory, etc. 

Our perceptive apparatus predicts and analyses all the stimuli from moment to moment, and then presents to our Consciousness A VERSION OF WHAT IS HAPPENING.
Not what is ACTUALLY happening, you understand – just a version of events.


Harnessing the Power of Thought

This entire ongoing routine of prediction and analysis is merely a set of Thought Processes. Or, to or to put it another way, it is HOW we are using The Power of Thought, moment by moment, to make sense of what is happening in the world both around us on the OUTSIDE and also for us on the INSIDE.

What SEEMS REAL to us, in terms of the version of what is happening, is not what SEEMS REAL to other people either – for they, too, are making up THEIR OWN version of what is happening for THEM!

HOW we harness the Power of Thought creates for each and every one of us a VERSION, albeit an ILLUSION, of what is REALLY going on. In terms of our experience, we are making it all up – every one of us – ALL the time!

It is what is known as the INSIDE-OUT NATURE of REALITY.

The WORLD ISN’T HAPPENING TO US – IT IS AN ILLUSION WE ARE MAKING UP, from moment to moment


Inside Out

Knowing WHERE our experience comes from, through HOW we are harnessing the Power of Thought and then presenting the results to our Consciousness, is the simplest and most wonderful psychological concept for everyone, in the world today.

In terms of our personal well-being this is a very USEFUL thing to know and understand.

For each and every one of us, the Clearer our Minds become with THIS, the smoother our lives will be and the less we will be prone to becoming beset by problems and circumstances.



Only Human

Yet there will always continue to be moments where we will DEFINITELY BELIEVE our thinking – because, as the song goes - we are ONLY HUMAN AFTER ALL!

So, DON’T put the blame on me – when I make assumptions, interpretations, predictions and judgements. For these are only ever based on my inadequate perceptions – and when I am vulnerable and less grounded in every moment to moment, my Human Frailty is BELIEVING this all to be REAL.
I find myself not just in the cinema WATCHING the scary movie, I’m actually believing I’m really LIVING inside the scary movie … and, you know what?
I’M SCARED!

SCARED, that is - until the moment I CHANGE MY MIND, until the moment I realise once more that it is all an ILLUSION, until I hit the ‘RESET’ button that brings me back to my Understanding.


Keeping the ‘RESET BUTTON’ near at hand!

So, how can we mitigate our frailties and those moments when we are believing our thinking?
Well, part of this starts with our being more grounded – as a DEFAULT state of mind, so to speak. When we are more grounded, the instances of Frailty showing up in our lives will be less frequent. However – they will STILL SHOW UP!
They tend to show up at times when our back is turned, or when we are complacent about our grounded-ness.

So, should we be always on our guard – in a state of constant watchfulness?
Well, to be honest, that’s VERY HARD WORK! It is like being in a state of constant alert – watchful, mindful of the dangers etc. In fact, when we start to make demands upon ourselves, like that, it tends to lead us towards an excess of THINKING.
And EXCESS THINKING, as we know, is pointing us back to Frailty.

Constant monitoring of our mental state, therefore, is counter-productive.

Now, our Minds and Bodies are an integrated and synchronous system where HOW WE ARE BEING occurs, every moment of our lives. And there is a very simple part of our unified self that is encapsulated within that system.

And that is – our ATTENTION.


 

Our Thinking and Our Attention


Now, when we are frail – living in the OUTSIDE-IN momentary nature of our fluctuating states of mind, most of us strive to get the feeling of SECURITY that comes from a sense of BEING IN CONTROL of our lives.
“If I can JUST change what is happening TO ME then my life will become better, will start to improve, and I will feel I’m getting ‘a handle’ on directing my life towards the things I want and the way I’d like things to be.”

However, in terms of seeing the wood for the trees - by DIRECTING our Attention AWAY from the Trees of our Thinking and towards the wood of something else, we can allow some clarity to emerge from the excess thought, and thus return to the transparency of allowing the Power of Thought to just flow through our lives, without our needing to constantly ATTEND to it.

There is NEVER any need to constantly ATTEND to our Thoughts – even though we might be persuaded to believe this is a good thing to do.


How might we change our Attention AWAY from Thoughts?

Well the first thing to realise is that it is pointless for us to EXAMINE our Thinking in terms Good or Bad, Positive or Negative. This is like getting ourselves to filter our Thinking, which brings even more TREES into our Attentive Foreground! Remember, we need to be disengaging from ALL TREES!

We need to engage more Attention to our raw, sensual stimuli – the Sights, Sounds, Touches, Smells and Tastes. If we notice that those TREES are still pretty dense in nature, and are still masking the WOOD, get outside – into the garden, perhaps go for a walk, a run, a drive to an engaging place.

Read a distracting yet absorbing book, play some distracting yet absorbing games, do a distracting yet absorbing activity like cooking a meal from scratch. If you are creative, get writing or drawing; make something simple but absorbing.

Get really good at POURING your ATTENTION into whichever activity you have chosen to engage with. Remember you are filling one cup in order to drain the other in terms of the illustration of how a fuller Attention can mask Thinking in order to ‘RESET’ that Thinking to being more clear and transparent.


Using our Bodies

Spread the fingers of your left hand. Now, using the index finger of your right hand, trace the spaces between the fingers of your left hand. Allow your right hand’s index finger to move in and out and up and down, going from the thumb of the left hand all the way along to the little finger.
It is a simple physical exercise – yet utterly distractive.


Place your tongue as close as you can to the roof of your mouth behind your upper set of teeth. Imagine there is a tiny droplet of edible oil between your tongue and the roof of your mouth – and hold that droplet there for around half a minute.
Again, it is a simple physical exercise, that also invokes a directed use of imagination, or guided visualisation – and, as before, is completely distractive.


Close your eyes and imagine the space between your eyes – not on the outside, as you might see when looking in a mirror, but on the INSIDE. There is no significance to whatever imagery may come up for you as you are doing this Open Focus exercise – just let it come, and then let it go.

Next, imagine the space inside your nostrils, and notice how your breath passes through this space – first on the way in, when you breathe in, and then on the way out when you breathe out. Get a sense of how the breath flows through that space.


Engaging with these two Open Focus exercises for only about a minute, will disengage you with any excess or overwhelm of thought for that time.

Again, the ensuing and emerging imagery is not of any particular consequence, but it is more about how we are directing our Attention to exploring even just these two areas of our INNER SPACE.

As you work through these various short and simple exercises, notice, once you finish, what has happened to your Thinking? Where has it gone?
It is – as virtually everyone says – as if those thoughts have vanished into thin air!

I was working with a lady for her Fear of Flying. When she returned from her overseas holiday I asked her how the flights had been for her. She reported that there had been some turbulence, and that she felt some of her panic symptoms returning. “I just used the ‘fingers’ exercise for about a minute,” she said, “And then I felt fine afterwards – even before the turbulence had stopped. Thank you so much!”  

We know we can direct our Minds to create change in our Bodies – we should never forget the power in our Bodies to create change in our Minds.

We are one complete, unique and synchronous system. It is there for us to engage with at all times!

Monday, May 7, 2018

Mind Nutrition


My good friend Sav Sandhu does some amazing work on fitness and wellbeing with high level executives and traders in the city. His regular videos on LinkedIn take fascinating and inspiring perspectives on maintaining the body as a key element in our wellbeing – plus he takes these perspectives from a strong, maintained and integrated mind-body approach. In his latest video he asks, “What is good nutrition?” and he outlines 4 key principles to help you with your nutrition even if you’ve tried every diet under the sun.

Which got me thinking along the lines … so, what is good “mental nutrition.”  


Food for Thought

Essentially, nutrition is defined as ‘the process of providing or obtaining the food necessary for health and growth.’
Nutrition for the Mind, therefore, might be the process of providing or obtaining the mental “food” necessary for mental health and mental growth.
Now, as an emergent descriptor or label, mental “food” is an interesting subject! So, I’d invite you to walk a way down this path merely to see what we might pick up along the way.

Our Relationship with our Thinking is a key aspect with regards to food for thought, rather in the same way that our relationship with our eating is a key aspect with regards to our bodily nutrition.

The acronym GIGO was well known in computer science as being “Garbage In Garbage Out,” meaning that if the input data is incorrect or invalid then the output will be incorrect.

And so, in bodily terms, eating bad, or incorrect food will lead to poor outcomes – and may even lead to our being invalid!
In thought terms however, it relates to how we process – how we ‘digest’ – the thoughts we select from the stream of thought energy flowing through our lives.

Thought energy just flows past via our consciousness, and the moment we notice, latch on to, select particles of that energy as it flows through, then the particles morph into OUR thoughts.
So, then commences the Relationship we have with our Thinking.


Predictions

There are criteria at play, with each and every one of us, that help us what to select from the stream of thought energy. And the WHAT that we select are filtered for us by our Beliefs and Values, Our Memories, Our past Experience.

Our brain functions, in terms of our perceptive apparatus, are driven to provide the rest of the mind-body some predictions as to WHAT IS HAPPENING. **

In the simplest of terms, at a certain time of day when we see the sun approaching the horizon coupled with a drop of temperature, we run this sensual data past our experience and memory and get a close match which the brain predicts as SUNSET. At this point, a number of other responses take place to add into the next required prediction. And the process continues in a similar way across our every thought process from sensual to cognitive.
Likewise, in a more complex way, if we are about to attend a meeting and we see that a rather surly, argumentative and uncooperative colleague is there, we’ll run this data input past our experience and memory and get some predictive filtering that leads our mind-body to responses of a different kind!

Both of these examples above are part of our relationship with our thinking.
Both are based upon predictions of filtered data, with the filters put in place by our Beliefs and Values, Our Memories, Our past Experience.
Both of these examples are Food for Thought. Yet – if we want to have a different experience from both the sunset but particularly the meeting, then we just have to change the Food. 

And the change of Mind Food would be to bring something more mentally nutritious to our filtering criteria – by altering our Beliefs and Values, Our Memories, Our past Experience.
This is exactly the same if we want to give our body better outcomes from our next month’s meals. Changing the food for things more nutritious will help our physical wellbeing on all levels.


Changing our Minds

There is a perspective on the nature of reality that is underpinned by the Three Principles of Mind, Consciousness and Thought.** It is known as the Inside-Out perspective, and I would describe it as being good nutrition for the Mind.

Part of our ability to understand the Inside-Out nature of reality, is to have an open mind. With an open mind we can acknowledge that our Beliefs and Values, Our Memories, Our past Experience, are not ever set in stone in quite the way that we might imagine. And that, as a consequence, we can change our view of the world – by changing the filters that we use on our raw data input.

In practical terms for example, this would mean that our colleague who was previously labelled as surly, argumentative and uncooperative, is now seen as just a colleague. We have removed the emotional portion of his labelling – but only for as long as we keep our judgements of him at bay. For it is our judgements of him that led to our labelling of him before – and it will be our present and future judgements of him that lead to labelling changes in the future. And that will be for good OR bad in equal measure.

For, as with all judgements, it is our THINKING that makes it so!


Good Mind Nutrition

So, good Mind Nutrition is about allowing our minds to be open to accepting change.

 It is about understanding that our Beliefs and Values, Our Memories, Our past Experience, are a vital filtering component of our predictive and perceptive apparatus, AND yet are never set in stone.

 It is about understanding that our Beliefs and Values, Our Memories, Our past Experience contain emotional elements that are there to enrich, flag up, be noticed. **
These emotional elements can be adjusted, enhanced, discarded at any time and we are not ever “at the mercy of them” unless we choose to be so.

 It is about understanding that whilst it is common for our predictive brain to be directed towards noticing sameness, that we do have the facility to direct our perceptions towards difference as well.


Conclusion

We make up our experience on a moment-to-moment, day-by-day basis through the way we harness the power of thought – through the relationship we have with our thinking. If we believe our thinking and our thought processes, then the product will be our reality.

Whether you blush easily, feel the cold more than others, stammer, freak out at spiders, hate being ignored, don’t go too near to the edge, like to be in control, get scared going to the dentist, and so on ad infinitum, it is all perceived through a thought process of one form or another.

This is why if believe you can – you can
And if you believe you can’t – you can’t
And it is the open-ness of your mind that maintains or changes everything.

It is ALL food for thought. And you can decide what you put on your plate!